I'm not sure if I've talked about this tip from dating expert Evan Marc Katz but it really rang true for me and it was actually a relief for a man to give this advice.
This only applies to ladies.
Please, stand still. Did you get that? STAND STILL!
Don't run away from a man hoping he will chase you. He might chase you. He might not. He may only enjoy the chase. Then when he finally catches you, he's done. Or, he just gets freaking tired because chasing you is really too much work.
Don't run to a man giddy with excitement smothering him with your love. I know you have a heart full of loving and adoring and damn it you're just so ready to share it.
There is plenty of time for that.
I promise. Later.
Stand still.
Let him approach you.
And when he does, be open. Be kind. Be your happy go-lucky self. Be the person you want to date. So lose the negativity and complaints. No one wants to be with Debbie Downer or Nancy Negative. Well, I don't anyway.
When first dating Tuba-dad, I didn't call him first. I didn't text him first. I didn't email him first.
Not until Day 33.
We were planning to get together that afternoon and I sent him a text at 10:39AM that said: hi. just thinking about you.
He told me later that night that he nearly fell out of his chair at work that I actually texted him first!
So just stand still. It took me 42 years to learn my life lessons and be ready to find and accept the love of my life. 42 years! So, believe me. There's plenty of time.
Stand still and be open to the good things and people that are in your life. One of them will be the love of YOUR life.
PS. The following is a contradicting statement: this doesn't mean that if you are on a dating website that you just throw up your profile and hope the love of your life finds you. Dating on websites is a job. Contact men you are interested in. You never know. You may find him but be graceful enough to let him do the rest after you get the ball rolling.
